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When the two of us first moved in together we were both horny all the time. Three years later we only have sex once a monthif that. We adore each other, but we are only in our early thirties and don't want our erotic lives to be over. How worried should we be? Should we look into sex therapy? |
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Don't get too worried at this point. The fact that the two of you are talking about it and missing how you used to be is a very healthy sign. Sexuality changes over the course of relationship and the hormones that brought you together in the first place need to be thought of differently with the passage of time. First of all, small children and all the other responsibilities of marriage don't make it easy to find the time, let alone be awake enough to find the passion. Many couples find that the days of spontaneous sex are behind them and they need to plan their sexual encounters in advance. They don't find time for sex, they make time for sex. The biggest surprise is that for many, after a long lull, the best way to want sex is to have sex. It is only after they get started that they start to feel horny. |