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We have been married a long time, 29 years. We've been through a lot of problems, now kind of just living in the same house, hardly any sex. He wants me to initiate it, but I have no desire. I had a complete hysterectomy three years ago. He won't talk or go to counseling. He denies there's a problem. |
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Have the two of you resolved the problems you've had? Is there residual anger? Are you grieving for your loss 3 years ago? Does he get it? It sounds as if sex is not the issue but the symptom. It sounds as if you two need to find a way to have a conversation where neither one feels so hurt. You might be able to find a way to do it without therapy. I hope you can. 29 years is a long time, but you have a lot of life left and you don't want to grieve for the rest of it. Who could help you besides a counselor? Think about that. And, forget about sex for now. Just go out to dinner together. Show an interest in him. The sex will come later. |