The Kinds of Things People Ask...
- Any ideas on how to deal with "old" anger
that seems to get in the way of feeling loving?
- We are making repairs, but they don't seem to hold. When is it time to call in an expert (marriage/relationship counselor)?
- What makes a
relationship better. We're around each other
24/7 (we both work out of the home) and are kind of bored with the whole thing.
- We fight too much—usually over money. It's a no brainer because we are broke. Can we find free marriage counseling services that will help us or is free therapy otherwise know as bad therapy?
- How do you suggest we regain romance
after many years of marriage?
- We need marriage counseling, but we live in a small New Jersey town where we know everyone and everyone knows us. Is on-line relationship counseling or telephone therapy an option if we want to keep our problems private?
- How common is it to have decreased
sexual desire during menopause? What is
treatment?
- I think we need couple counseling while he thinks we're fine. How can I get him to go to marriage counseling with me when he doesn't want to? I think our marriage depends on it.
- Any suggestions for how to push oneself
to discuss issues of concern as they arise and not
after thinking about them for hours myself?
- When the two of us first moved in together we were both horny all the time. Three years later we only have sex once a month—if that. We adore each other, but we are only in our early thirties and don't want our erotic lives to be over. How worried should we be? Should we look into sex therapy?
- How can you get your husband to talk.
Every day things he will talk about, but if it is about
emotions or personal things, no.
- At work, I spend a lot of time with the guy in the cubicle next to mine. A friend suggested that I was having an emotional affair. Since we aren't having sex, is there anything so wrong with that when it gives me something to look forward to every day?
- If your feelings and need to be truthful
threaten him, what do you do?
- How much of our relationship with
our father do we bring into our adult relationships?
- Men and women, perhaps they lose
their desire to be sexual with one another –
sexual, as in having intercourse, but isn't sexuality
so much more than that? I mean can't they be
without the actual sexual act for a while and
explore new areas together? It's not like that's
all there is.
- My
true love and I wonder – is there
a problem if we are content with romance and not sex
for now?
- We have been married a long time, 29 years.
We've been through a lot of problems, now kind of just
living in the same house, hardly any sex. He
wants me to initiate it, but I have no desire. I had
a complete hysterectomy three years ago. He won't talk or go to counseling.
He denies there's a problem.
- Do you think it's wise for a couple
to talk about the changes their relationship is
going through—including talking about how the
woman is changing during menopause?
- Hubby asks how do you keep the fires
going after lots of years (he can't remember
how many with three kids—two who still walk in on us).
- If a woman has
had a hysterectomy, might she be suffering loss
of libido due to testosterone deficiency?
- What if you are on different wave
lengths. He goes to bed at 9 and I can't sleep
before 11 or 12. He gets upset if I get back up
after sex.
- Working at sex
sounds so clinical to me. I've been married 28 years and we
both have grown up but don't think I could
work at it if I had to.
